An Open Letter to my Future (Married) Self

Hey there,

Happy Valentine’s Day! I know you’re working hard at being married. I’m sure you’re trying out new recipes, watching new movies, enjoying couple’s costumes on Halloween, and making special Christmas cards with cute pictures. I’m also sure that Valentine’s Day is far more enjoyable for you than it is for me. I hope you’re finding the balance between working and loving your husband. I also hope you’re content.

Do you remember how hard you worked at being single, too? I want you to remember how you used to pray for him—how you used to pray for yourself—that you would both grow closer to Christ in your singleness.

I hope you’re still thinking about what faithfulness is—and I don’t mean just being faithful to your husband, though that is important. I mean that I hope you’re still thinking about God’s faithfulness—that He is providing for you in all things. His timing was perfect in your loneliness. And now His timing is perfect for you and your husband.

Remember how it annoyed you when married people told you to enjoy being single? They would complain about being married and their husbands. It was easy for them because they had the thing you’d been dreaming of. They meant well, but don’t say that stuff to your single friends—even if that’s twelve years away and they are half your age. Instead of telling them they’re better off being single, maybe tell them you didn’t always enjoy the single-season of your life. Be honest.

Don’t forget how Heidi sent you a beautiful Valentine when she was still a newlywed. Don’t forget how your mom sent you flowers at work one year. Don’t forget how Oma consistently gave you Valentine cards and gifts. Remember all of their kindness, and take whatever opportunities you get to give that kindness to others.